I find myself in the awkward position of dating after a very long marriage and I can’t help but notice the extreme similarity between an interview and a first date. So, I decided to bring my own interview techniques to the dating scene. I remembered to be punctual, not ramble on, good eye contact and dress appropriately. I was cheerful and showed an interest in the subject matter. After the date, I pause and wonder…did I get the job?
Like interviewing, many of us new to the dating scene go home and days and weeks go by and we never get a call back and we wonder what happened? Why didn’t we get the second date? Where did it go off track? Is there that many choices for candidates to interview or women to date?
Interviewing is an important step in our professional life today. We spend a lot of time preparing and appearing for an interview, and when it’s over, we eagerly await the outcome. Realistically candidates keep on waiting for days, weeks and in some cases months to know about the closure of their interview. As a recent dater, there is where the similarity stops…if I don’t hear back in 48 hours I assume there is no interest and happily move on…perhaps when we interview we can adopt the same assumption? Let’s get our own closure, send our thank you notes and move on. If a company does not have the good manners to provide feedback, then we should be grateful we did not get the offer or the “second date”.
Can’t we all take that little extra time as a hiring manager or human resource professional, to bring back the “human element” and provide closure and feedback as to why the candidate did not get the position?
Has anyone gone on multiple interviews, taken time off from work, bought a new suit, hired a babysitter, sat in endless traffic only to be left with the all too common, no feedback, no communication and no idea why I did not get the job!
We can all do better! Love to hear your experiences…